A Doer’s Top Energy Drainers and Gainers


Self-care gets a bad rap by Doers, because they rarely see the need for it. While bubble baths and deluxe pedicures may sound nice, they secretly believe they’re a waste of time. Who wants to lie around all day getting pampered when there’s so much that needs to be done?


As Alan Kraft says in Good News for Those Trying Harder, “To those who love to be productive, rest is a lot of work.”

Self-care, in the form of rest, is particularly difficult for those who love to be productive, but I hope you’ll agree that even Doers need a break. You need to replenish your energy, refresh your mind, and restore your soul so that you’ll be able to do more for your family. 

Become aware of your Doer-specific energy drainers and gainers. They are unique to your design. If your best friend or husband are different personality types (and usually they are), they probably won’t be drained by these stressors or energized by these self-care acts like you are. Don’t worry, nothing is wrong with you. And nothing is wrong with them either because God made us all unique.

Top 6 Energy Drainers:


  1. Passivity. Those who let stuff happen, as opposed to make stuff happen, confound you.
  2. Loss of Control. You prefer your body, your children, and your hair to do what you want.
  3. Losing. Life is a mental competition in which you ask, Am I winning? 
  4. Taking Orders. You prefer to be in charge rather than told what to do.
  5. Slow Deliberation. When people take forever to make a decision, you go crazy.
  6. Irresponsibility. It’s difficult when others procrastinate, forget, or don’t complete their tasks.

Top 5 Energy Gainers:


  1. God Goals. As a got get em gal, its gratifying to set goals around your spiritual life.
  2. Exercise Goals. You move your body best when the activity has an end result.
  3. Job. Achievement in the form of work (paid or unpaid) fills your soul.
  4. Organization. Decluttering your home, car, and your calendar leaves space to rest.
  5. Celebration. To stay positive, celebrate your “to-done” list every single day.

Dear Doer, even you need to take care of yourself. 

When you do, you will be stewarding the life you’ve been given so that you can better steward those under your care.

For more information check out the Doer ebook or What’s Your Mom Type?: Discovering God’s Design for You.



There are four Authentic Personality Types:

Doers: Motivators who direct, dominate, and get stuff done.

Stabilizers: Peace-lovers who comfort, calm, and listen.

Connecters: Communicators who inspire, energize, and make life fun.

Improvers: Thinkers who prepare, plan, and perfect.

Learn more about the energy gainers and drainers of each and every type. This way you can understand the triggers of others and help them back up.