Have a Very Introverted Holiday

The holiday season often feels like an extrovert’s playground. Between the endless parties, bustling shopping malls, and festive gatherings, the pressure to make everything perfect for everyone can leave you feeling stretched thin—especially if you thrive in quieter, more reflective moments. Doers and Connecters often feel at home in this season of action and connection, but for Improvers and Stabilizers, the pace can be overwhelming.

But what if this year, you focused on a holiday that nurtures both you and your loved ones?

Rather than feeling like the season demands more of you, let’s reimagine it as an invitation to less—less noise, less stress, and less pressure to be all things to all people. Instead, embrace the beauty of a quieter, more intentional holiday by cultivating space, sensitivity, and silence. Because even though the world displays Christmas as a big, bright, blinking holiday, I think the advent season is really a quiet, soft, and slow holiday that celebrates the beauty of introversion. Stabilizers and Improvers, this one is for you.

1. CREATE SPACE FOR WHAT MATTERS

Set aside a special place in your home where you can reconnect with yourself, your values, and your sense of purpose. Whether it’s a cozy chair by the fire or a corner of your bedroom, let this be your sanctuary amid the holiday chaos. Use this space to reflect on what truly matters this season—not the endless to-do lists but the moments of connection and joy.

2. PRACTICE SENSITIVITY TO YOUR NEEDS

The emotional needs of an Improver are sensitivity, space, and silence, the same disciplines that we all need to cultivate in order to enjoy the introverted style of Christmas. If you are an extrovert, this will be harder for you, but still necessary and worthwhile in order to appreciate the depth of the season. Tune into your own needs. What brings you peace? What drains your energy? Being honest about these answers will help you make choices that honor your well-being while still celebrating with those you love.

3. EMBRACE THE POWER OF SILENCE

Amid the carols and conversations, carve out moments of quiet for yourself. Just five minutes a day can help you reset and refocus. Use this time to reflect on the quiet ways God works in our lives, much like the stillness of that first Christmas night, when His presence entered the world in the humblest of forms, bringing peace and hope to all.

RELEASING THE PRESSURE

One of the biggest challenges of the holidays is the pressure we put on ourselves to do everything—and do it perfectly. But what if you let some of that go? What if you trusted not in your own efforts, but in the presence of God to carry you through the season? God’s gift to the world was His presence in the quiet and humble form of a child—a reminder that we don’t need to strive for perfection to bring joy. To help you embrace this perspective, I’m offering a faith-based resource called the Heavenly Father Letters. This set of letters affirms the unique gifts and strengths of each personality type while gently releasing you from the need to use them for everyone’s benefit.

If you’d like to explore these letters and find encouragement tailored to your personality, take the Authentic Personality Quiz and download the Heavenly Father Letters here. They are a beautiful reminder that you are enough, exactly as you are.

A HOLIDAY WORTH REMEMBERING

This season, let’s reclaim the holidays as a time to reflect, connect, and nurture our truest selves. By creating space, embracing sensitivity, and finding stillness, we can craft a holiday that feels meaningful not just for others but for ourselves as well.

Here’s to a season of peace, joy, and authenticity. Wishing you a truly meaningful holiday!